Achieving Kink Goals

Written by: Leann Herron of The Kink Your Way Podcast

This topic means a lot of different things to me as a submissive, in my submission to my Sir, in my education goals as a Kink Aware Professional, for my business, and for my community. Since I started my Health and Life Coaching business, and probably even a little before that, I had dreams of helping people who are curious about the kink and BDSM life. I love everything about it and some days want to yell about it from the rooftops. I have been in the lifestyle for 7 years after ending a 20-year marriage, most of that without sex and intimacy, and trying to figure out who I am, what I want, what I don’t want, and what am I even interested in. My only knowledge about kink and BDSM was reading erotica and very minor porn. I was too busy raising kids to even think about those things. Sex, intimacy, sex education, pleasure, etc. were never discussed by my parents growing up so I didn’t have much reference, other than what my obligation was as a wife and mother. My friends were my sex education including learning about having a period, getting pregnant at 17, hormones, body changes, etc.

As I started learning about kink and BDSM, I wanted to learn everything…frenzy was crazy fun and scary. I was blessed with amazing mentors from both sides of the slash. I was able to experience my wants, needs, desires, and role in a safe environment. After Sir and I got together it was clear that we were both experienced and interested in learning and growing together as a D/s couple. A part of this education was purchasing Dom Sub Living’s Dom Sub Training, attending sex education classes at our local adult toy store and education facility, attending summits in the area of mental health and BDSM, purchasing tons of books, listening and following sex educators, podcasters, etc. I love education, especially around kink and BDSM. This is where I first interacted with Alesandra from Dom Sub Living. It was amazing to find such a complete and exciting amount of educational materials from a D/s couple.

Dom Sub Living is designed to help beginners and experienced kinksters explore BDSM more fully and help Doms and subs master their mindsets and create the lifestyle of their dreams.

I learned the following (list not inclusive) from Dom Sub Living:

Dom Sub Training (nail the basics, understanding true submission, become a bondage expert, discipline and punishments, how to find a partner, finally find your perfect partner, help your partner be more Dominant, Submissive, or Kinky, journaling, going from part-time to full-time, daily schedules and routines, how to stay in role when you are busy, sample scenes, creating an intense scene, dealing with relatives, coworkers and children, wax play, rope, flogging, shibari study, and so much more)

• 3 Lessons About Starting a BDSM Lifestyle
• How to Have an Amazing BDSM Lifestyle
• Hard & Soft Limits Checklist
• How to Create a BDSM Contract
• The Ultimate Guide to Being a Submissive
• 5 Things You Need to Know About Consensual Non-Consent
• Quick Start BDSM Bonus Bundle (key terms, overview of living the lifestyle, sample scenes, daily schedule, bondag3 tutorials, 
• An amazing resource library, and
• Affiliate Marketing.

I think I could go on and on about all of the wonderful things I have learned about being submissive, being the best submissive, and living a D/s lifestyle from Dom Sub Living and other amazing kink educators. The information is quality education.

With Alesandra’s help, I was able to learn and grow with my Sir, as well as advance my knowledge as a submissive from a trusted source. I love learning and sharing with other submissives and joined a sub-group so I could attend munches and events and be with like-minded individuals. 

And I want you to feel the same.

This blog contains affiliate links. If you purchase something through this link, I’ll receive a commission at no extra cost to you! 

Alesandra has a few free & paid offers I’d love to share with you today!

• If you want to dip your toes into Alesandra’s resources for Doms and subs, you can sign up for her free library. 
• If you want to find the perfect partner for your BDSM lifestyle, watch Alesandra’s workshop here. Watch Alesandra’s workshop 4 Steps to Finally Find Your Perfect Partner
• If you want help working with your current partner, watch this workshop! 5 Ways to Help Your Partner Be More Dominant, Submissive, or Kinky
• If you want a more cohesive deep dive into the world of BDSM, learn more about this training! Dom Sub Training.

I became an affiliate marketer for Dom Sub Living and love all the opportunities it has provided. I love sharing my story as it relates to the education, Sir and I have obtained from Dom Sub Living. If you want to learn more about affiliate marketing check out my blog What Is Affiliate Marketing.

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Achieving My Kink Goals

Here is my HUGE WIN – KINK GOAL, in April 2023, Alesandra invited me to be a speaker at an upcoming 5-day Dom Sub Dynamic Virtual Summit. I think my head exploded, my heart almost did as well. This was a major opportunity for me to share my story with a larger crowd of curious or experienced group of kinksters, share about my coaching business working as a Kink Aware Professional, and just express my gratitude for everything I have learned from Dom Sub Living.

The summit had 20+ amazing presenters and amazing bonuses if you purchased the All-Access Pass. The Summit was dedicated to helping Dominants and submissives improve their relationships and make BDSM a lifestyle. I am over the moon from being invited to be among other kink professionals and sex educators. I discussed my D/s mindset hurdles that I overcame, how I got started in kink, and shared the story of my journey. 

I am a Kink Aware Professional Certified Health and Life Coach and my business niche is Kink Your Way. My mission is to provide services to people who are curious, currently practicing, or need coaching in all areas of life from a knowledgeable kink professional and references to other kink professionals. I am so excited for this opportunity to share my story and my business.

My Life and Health Coaching services can be found on my Finding Resilience with Leann website. Kink and BDSM is my business niche.

How a Kink aware Life and Health Coach can help you:

• Discover your identity, limits, voice, and boundaries 
• Discover how to ask for what you want so you can experience a change in the direction of your desired outcome
• Know your power
• Help you know where to get more information
• Learn how to be willing to receive what you want
• Learn how to identify and communicate your interests in learning more
• Discover how to identify and communicate your beliefs about sex and kink
• Learn how to identify your wants, needs, and desires
• Guide to know your compatibility for the relationship you are seeking
• Deep dive into your desires and appetites
• Discover what wants to be nourished 

Here is my interview with Alesandra – Overcoming Mindset Hurdles in Your D/s Journey 

Are you ready to take your kink to the next level, and need help from a Kink Aware Professional? Schedule a FREE one-time 30-minute conversation with me and let’s discuss how I can help you achieve your dreams of living your best kinky lifestyle.